Sunday, December 2, 2012

The Year From Hell

I have been missing in action for quite a while.  Miss me anyone?

I have been facing the demons in my life and there was one that really needed some hard work to get rid of... he's gone now.

This year my relationship of 13 years ended.  My husband turned out to be less than the ideal man to be sharing my life and trust with. He cheated on me, broke unimaginable boundaries and emotionally scarred me for life. 

That is over. I have taken the year to look at the situation... fight my battles and make my life plans....

At the start of October I moved my children from North Canterbury to Tauranga... where I am forging a new path for us and have been accepted into the Bachelor of Nursing at Bay of Plenty Polytechnic, starting at the end of January next year.

My kids are settled and doing well.

I am facing each day as it comes and trying to find my way in life as a single mum of four, not an easy task by any stretch of the imagination.  There is still combined debt from the relationship, we had no home, no assets...

I have moved with $1000 in my pocket and, with the help of very great friends, have started to rebuild my life.  We don't have much but we have each other and we have a positive way forward without a narcissistic man controlling our lives.

I hope you all come back and join me on my new path....

And anyone interested in my health and fitness struggles and can come and join me at Destination Goddess where I am about to make some big changes....

10 comments:

savannah said...

what a surprise to see you at the top of my sidebar again, sugar! what a year for you, but you seem to be moving forward with strength and purpose! i wish you well and will be here with you! xoxoxox

Name: Lynise said...

wow, Jules, what a huge year you have had. I am really sorry to hear you have had such a rough year and certainly know what its like to have a relationship end and what it feels like to pick up the pieces and start to rebuild.
Tauranga is a beautiful place and I hope you are settling in well and finding your feet. I moved to Tauranga at the end of 2007 when my relationship in Auckland ended and love it in the Bay. (although today is not the greatest start to the first Monday of summer). If you ever need any help please ask, I have been where you are and am only a message away if you need anything.

AlleyCat said...

Hey Jules!
Good to have you back. I'm so sorry you've all had to go through such an awful time. I hope that the coming year brings healing, health & happiness to you all. I recon that Goddess has been kicking some serious arse already & can't wait to see/hear more. xoxoxo

Irish Daughter said...

Welcome to your new life brave one. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. Kids do that for a start and you inspire also. Nice to have you back on the blog. x

donna said...

Glad your back Jules roll on 2013 for a better year.

Chris H said...

HAPPY NEW YEAR CHICK, MAY 2013 BE AN AWESOME YEAR FOR YOU.

Tracy said...

Oh wow!! I haven't checked in for ages, what a huge change & upheaval in your lives. I am sorry things didn't work with your husband but you and your kids will be fine, I look forward to your updates.

Happy New Year.

Spiky Zora Jones said...

My New Year's wish includes you. I wish for the best things in life for you and your children, honey.

Set your feet on the ground firmly, shoulders back, tilt your head upward...and nudge the sky.

I see good things going your way...

Memphis Steve said...

I don't know what to say. I have struggled with the same decision you have recently made. So are you not going to write here anymore in the future, or are you going to maintain 2 blogs? I see you've changed your email address because your old one bounced back. Happy New Year, Jules! I hope this is a better one.

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